If you are one of the many couples who can’t have a child on their own, you may want to explore another viable option: using a surrogate mother to carry a baby to term for you. Surrogacy is a growing business that has been gaining popularity in the United States and is allowing many more people than ever before to experience the joy of becoming parents. Of course such a service comes at a steep cost, but for many, the rewards that come along with this investment can truly be priceless.
Who Uses A Surrogate
Using a surrogate can be an appealing option for people in a variety of different situations. Some couples who look to someone to carry a baby for them have been through numerous fertility treatments that were unsuccessful, while others may have gone through repeated miscarriages and are unable to have a successful pregnancy on their own. In addition, a surrogate can be a viable choice for women with health conditions that make the concept of pregnancy and/or labor too high risk. Finally, more and more same sex couples are turning to surrogacy as an option to allow them to start their own families.
How It Works
The way surrogacy generally works is that you enter in a contractual agreement with a woman who agrees to try to become pregnant with “your” child. After the baby’s birth, she will hand over the child to you to raise as your own (in some cases this needs to be done through a legal adoption). But how the woman becomes pregnant can vary depending on a variety of circumstances and these fine details make a big difference in the logistics.
Keep in mind that surrogacy is not a legal option in all states, and even some states that don’t prohibit it also do not recognize it, either, which can pose complications. But some of the states that do allow surrogacy issue pre-birth orders that allow the names of the parents to be used for the birth certificate.
(If you live in California, the road to surrogacy may be easier than in other parts of the country, since this is known as one of the most surrogate-friendly states in the U.S.)
Different Arrangements For Different Situations
If you do contract with another women to carry your baby for you, how this arrangement works depends on your specific circumstances. There are two basic types of surrogates. The first, a gestational surrogate, houses and births a baby who isn’t genetically related to her, using an embryo made from an egg and sperm you provide (either from you or from outside donors). The second type is a traditional surrogate, who uses her own egg along with sperm that either you or a donor provide. In such a case, the surrogate is biologically related to the baby and the child will need to be legally passed on to you through adoption procedings.