The Finer Points
Keep in mind that who actually provides the egg is in fact more important from a legal standpoint than who provides the sperm. This is because if you use the surrogate’s own egg then she is seen in the eyes of the law as the baby’s legal mother. The danger in this scenario is that this will give her more claim to the baby after its birth, which can be a problem if she were to change her mind about giving it to you and decide she wants to instead raise it on her own instead.
Who Becomes A Surrogate
Many healthy women who want to help infertile couples do so by becoming surrogates. Often surrogates have had children of their own and want to share the joy of parenthood with others. In some cases, surrogates can also be motivated by the financial rewards that come along with the experience.
How much a surrogate charges can vary a great deal, depending on where she lives, what her needs are and whether she works independently or through an agency that serves as a broker for such a service. Regardless of whether you go through a surrogate directly or use a middleman, you should always be sure to use a lawyer to make sure your agreement is spelled out legally and appropriately protects the rights of everyone involved in this arrangement.
What To Expect
The type of relationship you arrange with a surrogate can vary a lot, but often, the couple will be involved throughout the pregnancy and birth. In addition, following the birth, some couples continue to stay in touch with the surrogate and involve her in the child’s life in some way, while other families prefer to part ways after the process is completed.
What It Costs
When you calculate the cost of using a surrogate, there are many factors that come into play and can greatly impact the final equation. First, whether the surrogate is working independently or going through an agency can affect the final fee, but generally the entire process from start to finish can run up to $100,000 or more when you add in all of the related costs.
This includes a surrogate’s fee that is often in the range of $10,000 to $20,000. But keep in mind this is just the beginning of your financial investment. You can also assume that you will incur legal and agency costs of between $15,000 to $30,000 to handle all of the logistics and paperwork involved. If your surrogate has health insurance that will cover her pregnancy, this will help to minimize some of the medical costs, but the policies in regard to surrogacy are not very advanced at this point, and some health insurance companies may exclude coverage for this situation.